During pregnancy, the mother-to-be may develop allergies or, if she was already allergic, her symptoms may worsen. This is what happened to a 6-month-pregnant woman who suddenly became allergic to cats, says her husband on Reddit. The problem is that they have one at home. And rather than find a new family for the feline, he proposed that his wife move out until the childbirth.
She develops an allergy to cats during pregnancy
This couple has known each other for seven years, has been married for four years and is expecting their first child. “I have an indoors only cat that I have raised since he was a kitten and is now 16 years old. My wife and I are the only people he sees regularly. My wife suddenly developed an allergy to cats. We talked to our doctor about it, and he said it could happen sometimes.”he explains.
He offers to live elsewhere rather than have the cat move
Because of this allergy, the couple quarrels. “My wife wants to find a new home for the cat. I don’t want to do that, he’s old, he only knows me and my wife, only knows our home, he’s never been with other humans or d ‘other animals. I think it would be very stressful for him and at his age it could kill him.”explains this man.
The future dad then recounts having proposed that he considers to be “a compromise”. “We can go and live with her parents (who live 10 minutes away and have no problem with us taking the spare room) until the birth and then, if the allergy persists for her or for the baby, I could look (with great care) for a new permanent home for my cat”he says, indicating that he has planned, if they go to his in-laws, to go see the cat every day. “My wife told me I was a c***d for prioritizing my cat over her and the baby’s health. I don’t want to traumatize my cat for something that might be temporary”he adds.
“It’s not a compromise. Kicking your wife out when she’s 6 months pregnant is really, really not something you should be doing if you value your relationship”answers a user who, like most members of the forum, believes that the future dad is in the wrong. “You’re choosing your cat over your pregnant wife and future child, and you’re causing her unnecessary stress. What’s your problem? She’s allergic. Allergies get worse over time, but you need to reconsider your priorities before the arrival of the babyadds another.
One person, however, defends the dad: “Allergies usually get worse over time, but allergies developed during pregnancy often go away after giving birth. It’s also possible that the cat had nothing to do with it and she has a pregnancy rhinitis. I understand that you don’t want to put your cat through the stress of moving for a temporary problem”. Another adds: “I think it’s a strange solution, but I also think you’re trying to find a temporary solution to a possibly temporary problem. Basically you want to put on a bandage rather than amputate. […] If his wife is only temporarily allergic, finding a new home for the cat might cause resentment, as would keeping him if the allergy persists.”
The cat died
Later, the dad-to-be added an update to his post. He says that, reading the responses from netizens, he started looking for another solution. “My brother lives a few hours away and he lived with my cat for a few years when we were younger so I called him and explained the situation to him. He agreed to adopt him but was on the move so he couldn’t get it back for two weeks I told my wife we should keep the cat for just under two weeks, until my brother comes and in the meantime she should use some medicine for allergies or going to her parents. She became furious and said that she was not going to leave our house and that the cat had to leave as soon as possible. I explained to her that it was the best I could do, that I was not going to give my cat to the first person who passed by”he says.
Except that, the next day, on returning home from work, he cannot find the cat. “I asked my wife and she told me without hesitation that she dropped him off at an animal shelter. She said, ‘I’m pregnant and unhappy and you didn’t want to get rid of him so I did it””, he explains. He immediately goes to the shelter and, there, it is once again impossible for him to find his feline. “When I showed a picture of him to the employee she started apologizing. She said they put him with the other cats but later they took in a big dog, and that they had to walk past the cat cages to get to the dog cages. The dog jumped on my cat’s cage and barked at her, so my cat panicked and had a heart attack (according to her). He died. She gave me her body in a shoebox.”
“I went home with him. My wife started to apologize when she saw him but I ignored her and went straight to the garden to bury him. I called my brother to tell him what happened. He started yelling into the phone saying my wife murdered my cat and I need to reconsider our relationship I just feel numb I didn’t say a word to my wife I think I I wouldn’t even be able to look at it. I don’t know what I’m going to do”, testifies this man. There, we must say that we had not come to see this end. If, at the beginning, it was he who rather badly managed the situation, the fact that his wife got rid of the cat without telling him is also problematic, even if it did not lead to his death.
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